Written by Julie Taylor
Develop a Quiet Mind…
Most people have a very busy life – and very busy minds! Use this to develop a quiet mind – not easy but so worthwhile. An active body quiet mind!
I believe that one of the purposes of life is to learn and grow the ‘self’ throughout the journey of life. But how? If you can develop a quiet mind, the rest will follow.
I also believe that the connection with our ‘self’ is key and again to develop a quiet mind is part of that key. Many people don’t know their ‘self’ very well? And I I’ve noticed one very curious thing? Many people avoid their ‘self’ – maybe as if they can’t stand themselves?! Sadly it’s often a sense of loneliness that people actually feel in relationship.
To be alone – and develop a quiet mind – seems to be a terrible feeling for some and wonderful for others. What’s going on inside us that makes so many of us uncomfortable to be alone?
When you are going to the bathroom, do you need to read something to fill up the silence? Some people park their vehicle as close to the mall entrance as possible, saying that they don’t want to walk very far (2 minutes walk) – but they walk in the mall for hours. Could the difference be that when you walk outside you are by yourself and need to fill your mind with something? Do you go see a movie by yourself or do you really want to go with somebody because you find it too boring by your self? During the movie you don’t even talk very much… I hope you don’t find your ‘self’ boring?
Is it so painful to be alone for just a few minutes? Maybe there is so much going on emotionally that is better to keep our mind busy and avoid thinking of it all? Deepak Chopra seems to me like a link between the west and the east and this is a great Meditation DVD from him.
Some people are tuned into their intuition and some are not. Where would you be in terms of being close to your intuition? It’s a bit like being at the table, deciding that you don’t like a particular kind of food but never having tried it before…
Intuition starts by connecting with your self – which is knowing and listening to your self. If you keep your self and your mind busy at all the time, I believe it could be because – subconsciously – it could be hard for you to be by yourself. Hmmm… And if it’s hard to you to be with yourself, how is it for your life partner to be with you?
Here is a great Meditation Cushion which is versatile and actually big enough to sleep on.
Connecting with the self is also helpful in preventing disease – if you believe that some disease and illness are the result of emotional stress? Stress that hasn’t been expressed and perhaps identified in the past.
We may know that quiet of mind and inner peace help us to connect with ourselves, but how? This exercise will help you develop a clear and quiet mind.
I would like to share with you a very quick and easy breathing technique to help you to relax and connect with your self and develop a quiet mind. You can also use it in bed to induce ‘mind quiet’ and help you to fall asleep.
The purpose of breathing is to calm the mind and develop inner peace. We can use breathing relaxation alone or as a preliminary practice to reduce our distractions before engaging in a meditation – the quiet mind.
These Meditation Chimes are very similar to my own – they sound absolutely gorgeous and listening to the chime disappear is a perfect way to settle into the frame of mind conducive to meditation.
I know that for some people the word meditation conjures up images of strange clothes and incense burning and odd practices that take a long time. That need not be so. The whole point of the meditation is to make a connection with your self. How we do that is our choice entirely.
First try a breathing relaxation to calm the mind and the body and think of nothing in particular. This in itself is the greatest challenge; not doing anything – not even thinking of anything – is so hard to do. When thoughts come into your mind, gently acknowledge them and then put them to one side. You can do this for as long as you choose – 10 minutes is fine or up to 20 min is even better. It’s up to you!
Sit in any position that’s comfortable for you. If you prefer, sit in a chair. The important thing here is to keep your back straight – which will prevent your mind from becoming sluggish or sleepy.
Sit with your eyes closed (to prevent visual stimulation) and turn your attention to your breathing. Breathe naturally, preferably through the nose, without attempting to control your breath.
Become aware of the sensation of the breath as it enters and leaves the nose. This sensation is the object of this meditation. Try to concentrate on this exclusively.
At first, your mind will be very busy – in fact you might even feel that the meditation is making your mind busier? In reality you are just becoming more aware of how busy your mind actually is.
You may feel a great temptation to follow the different thoughts as they arise – that’s normal! When you find your mind wandering and following your thoughts, gently return your attention to the breath. Patiently repeat this as many times as necessary until your mind finally settles on the breath – which may only be for a few moments at a time at first.
When you practice in this way, gradually distracting thoughts subside and you experience a sense of inner peace and relaxation and develop a quiet mind.
This breathing relaxation is a preliminary stage of meditation and it can be quite powerful in its own right. From this practice you see that it’s possible to experience inner peace, contentment and ‘mind quiet’ just by controlling your mind…
By practicing breathing relaxation for ten or fifteen minutes each day, you will reduce your stress levels. You will experience a calm, spacious feeling in your mind.
Here’s a very easy breathing relaxation technique that will help you to relax in just 2 minutes. In Quebec we call it the Triôme!
Breathe in through the mouth and breathe out by the mouth also, 3 times slowly.
Breathe in through the mouth and breathe out through the nose 3 times slowly.
Breathe in through the nose and breathe out through the nose 3 times slowly.
Now breathe naturally and return your attention to your breathing. Preferably through the nose, but not necessarily. Do not attemp to control your breath. Become aware of the sensation of the breath as it enters and leaves the nostrils.
You can do this as long as you want – again 10 minutes is fine or up to 20 min is even better. The choice is always yours!
I often do this in bed to help me fall asleep! It also helps to ensure that I develop a quiet mind and have a good quality of sleep.