Building Healthy Relationships & ReBuildingYou after Trauma, Emotional & Physical
Think Twice Cut Once!Writing this blog (a collection of experiences, travelling literally or just in my mind) is mostly for fun! My more serious goal though is to do what I sometimes wish I had done as a teenager: take time to really think things through.
My Dad used to tell me (over and over again!): think twice and cut once. About 45 years too late, I will now think before I leap! Had I allowed myself to be guided by my father’s words when I was a young woman, I wonder what my life would have been?
Blogs are my offerings to practice this theory.
My life has had a significant effect on the lives of those around me. Obviously, I guess. That was something I didn’t properly consider. I thought I had ‘forever’ to work ‘life’ out and in my rush, I didn’t stop and think. I would never willingly hurt anyone. Ever. But…
This website, the articles, the blogs, the ConnectionCue™ cards and the RelationshipCue™ cards give you some of the information and tools you need to think twice before you cut.
Design your life exactly the way you want it and I wish you both courage and compassion!
A profound walk in the park: life isn’t usually a walk in the park but, as I walked by the lake in Abbotsford with my Mom and watched the ducks, I learned a very profound lesson… Ducks are so busy and full of joy! No wonder we humans are drawn to them! They are so full of … Read more
Getting life right… Perhaps by the time I’m in my sixties or seventies? Kids long for the days to pass. I struggled to add an extra few weeks to my age. I remember being 7 3/4 and the agony of going so slow and counting the days to my 8th birthday. It was easy to be ‘in the … Read more
Arrived in a sunny Calgary with clear blue skies and bitterly cold today! Long difficult bus trip yesterday – my hat is off to our driver and to all professional drivers (including 2 of my sons) who keep going in this weather. I haven’t added a post for months, I realize that… It’s been a long and … Read more
San Felipe in the state of Baja California in Mexico is a little fishing village on the northeast coast of the Baja peninsula, on the Sea of Cortez. It’s just a little fishing village as well as being the biggest town there is for miles. And talking of sheer size, California USA is a big … Read more
I had a great supper with Thomas – my youngest son – and his girlfriend and her parents at Swans. I had a fantastic evening… Thank you from the bottom of my heart. All this feeling relaxed and safe and comfortable is when my vulnerable thoughts sneak out to play. Yikes… One by one, the … Read more
Is what I’m feeling a ghost-feeling or just a powerful, reaction-causing habit from the past? Are they the same thing? (Ghost-feelings cause all kinds of trouble…) Something about not being able to do a blog every week really bothers me? I put constant pressure on myself to ‘do more’, ‘be efficient’ or be ‘on time’. This pressure … Read more
Reconnecting with yourself, sometimes years after trauma, is the ultimate freedom. That I can promise you! Several people have asked me what I do every day? Who knows! Seriously, I don’t think I’ve ever worked so hard. This is my time to reconnect with myself. Today is my freedom, after running flat out for years just to … Read more
What a fantastic few days… weeks… It’s been warm and sunny with bright blue skies and although it was freezing at night in Calgary, there’s been no sign of those cold temperatures here… yet! The Okanagan was gorgeous, the Counselling conference I attended was was good (although little did I know the 3 years of … Read more
Canadians are tough! After surviving a night of freezing temperatures we found a pretty lake, defrosted in the sun and enjoyed a BBQ – as you can see, my brilliant son brought his backyard grill from home! Midday was mostly warm but as the day went on the sun spent more time behind the clouds … Read more
This week I travelled with one son from Calgary up to Grande Prairie and back – to look at a semi-truck?! And with another son from Calgary to Abbotsford and back. (I had a cup of tea with my Mom, sitting in the sun on her deck.) Both trips were long road trips, just … Read more