Counselling Services: Oak Bay Victoria or Sidney; Office, Online or Email counselling.

Counselling Services to Enliven Connection – Design and Build a Fabulous Life! 

Counselling services that welcome the whole of you…

… the shy, the brash, the angry, the anxious, the confused, the narcissistic, the compassionate, the spouse, the hurt, the teenager, the misunderstood, the parent, the elder, the broken and the perfectly normal parts. Counselling services that address every part of you, to enjoy a truly satisfying life!

TOOLS: ConnectionCue Cards,  RelationshipCue Cards (and “What I Mean Is…” Stroke Recovery book).

Counselling Services. *  Win at Life and in Marriage  *  Heal  Trauma.


Counselling ServicesHere you will find great counselling services… We all need a bit of help sometimes.

If you are experiencing anxiety and a sense of un-safety right now, scroll down to the bottom of this page and use the free 6 minute exercise video there to help before you read on…

Office counselling services in Oak Bay Victoria or Sidney. Or online (video, like Skype) and email counselling services (which are great too and more affordable). Real tools – Cue Cards – that you can use between sessions to guide you to become more mindful in daily life and supercharge your relationships. Transform trauma and get on with your life – with or without a traditional counsellor.

Great Relationships are essential  – especially the relationship with yourself. ConnectionCue cards work to heal this most important connection. Then work on relationships with family and friends with RelationshipCue cards: these tools work! Imago and NVC blended together with TOT is the most powerful therapy you will find for both relationship counselling and for individual counselling.  I also use neuroscience to explain your experiences. I am familiar with Polyvagal Theory, ACE, the Triune brain  and other cutting-edge research.

Is There a Connection Between Trauma and the Relationships we Choose? Probably, yes, particularly if that trauma was in your childhood. Why? Because during those formative years the way we connect with ourselves and with others is established. And it may well need tuning.

Emotions Affect Physical Health: In cases of purely physical trauma, many people miss the fact that there is an emotional component to their trauma.  Like an iceberg, the obvious physical mountain of ice is visible but up to 2/3 of the iceberg – like the emotional part of all trauma – lurks beneath the sea and can sink your ship. With chronic disease, emotional work is essential if you want to recover to the very fullest extent possible.  Click here for specific attention to physical trauma: stroke, chronic disease, brain injury, chemobrain and more…

Be A Healthy Hub For Your Family: The desire to explore personal growth and create a strong family is more important today than ever before. Today’s fast pace does not suffer inefficiency. Of any kind. Whether your trauma is emotional or physical, from a relationship (perhaps a divorce) to an accident, a head injury to chemobrain or a stroke, today is a great time to start your journey!

About Me

My name is Julie and I am a registered psychotherapist with 20+ years experience. I hold an MTC (Master Therapeutic Counsellor) and RCS (Registered Counselling Supervisor) with ACCT (Association of Cooperative Counselling Therapists). (I’ve also worked in hospital administration, construction,  business /marketing and can milk a goat?!)

I’m the mother of 4 adult sons, grandmother of 7 grandchildren – and one on the way! I’m also a partner, girlfriend, sister, daughter and  a passionate student. (Neuroscience is my subject: it explains so much and helps to explore the connection between the brain, the mind and the psyche.)

I started this website many years ago to help make sense of the challenges I see with my clients (and experienced myself) and so share that learning. It seemed a waste not to maximize all of that experience and use it to the full.

To my delight some of the new research in neuroscience now explains these experiences. My hope is that we can pool our knowledge and help each other along, with or without a counsellor (wealthy or not). Sharing in itself is a need and has been shown to aid recovery and increase resilience! We humans are social creatures!  Other vital needs are to connect and belong. There are dozens of needs: the more needs you meet, the happier you feel. And that’s now proven!

Relationship and Trauma Counselling Services

Imago Style Therapy is one of the most successful relationship and marriage counselling therapies and blended with NVC it’s pure dynamite!  TOT, or Trust Oriented Therapy is powerful (and so gentle) and is the perfect ‘glue’ for this blend. TOT custom-fits your experience and includes a Mindfulness approach, EFT, Person Centred theories, EMDR, Hypnosis and Cognitive Behavioural approaches.  CueCards™ guide you step-by-step to use these therapies, at home and often without the expense of professional counselling.

ConnectionCue™ and RelationshipCue™ Cards

NVC is a simple and incredibly powerful concept which has always proven extremely hard to put into practice.  ConnectionCue cards bring ease and usability to NVC, Imago-style work and to personal development. These brightly coloured, glossy  cards cue you to notice the dozens of needs that we all have constantly… And often miss, at a great cost to ourselves. RelationshipCue cards cue and guide successful communication for every relationship and offer a strong framework – and a reminder of the rules! – for couple communication.

Use this website as a blueprint to guide you as you design your life. Here you will find ideas to start you on the path to building a stronger and happier ‘you’. Wherever you start from, create a vibrant life. For you, your family or to finally heal from trauma or chronic disease.

This website (and the CueCards) are designed to be used with or without a therapist.  That’s right: you can get started without expensive help. You can also use these ideas and tools with your own therapist. Or a close friend. To help you get started I will also send you a step-by-step instruction booklet as soon as it’s completed. Hundreds of clients, individuals and couples, have found these cards invaluable.

My 4 sons have all been key in rebuilding my life after my own physical – followed by emotional – trauma with their support, love, loyalty and strength. Thank you Matt, Dan, Ben and Tom  They are my  inspiration and offer me their unconditional love (and skills – to help me build my life: my house and my website!). Thank you also to my daughters-in-law for loving my sons, spicing life and creating my grandchildren: Brittany, Cobe, Amelia, Noah, Tinishia, Leah and Norah. I can’t begin to express the great thrill, seeing life through excited new eyes!  Thank you!


FACT: Anxiety, abuse and other ‘purely emotional issues’ cause just as much trauma as a broken body.

If you have questions, please send me an email.