Want Emotional Independence?
ConnectionCue™ Cards Will Lead You There!
Emotional independence is when…
…you feel strong and grounded. It’s when you know yourself inside out. It’s when you know you can trust yourself completely to take care of your own needs. That’s what these little cards help to do: give you emotional independence.
Feeling helpless, hopeless or misunderstood? Or blown around by other people’s emotional storms (drama)?
Get to know yourself thoroughly: know exactly what you want in your life.
Find just the right tone of voice to ask for what you want in a way that is both comfortable for you and that your partner can hear.
…comes from being able to express yourself clearly… And that’s worth its weight in gold!
How do you get to this strong and grounded place? How do you get to know yourself fully. How do you express yourself to others?
The answer is with NVC (Non Violent Communication by Dr Marshall Rosenberg), made easy with ConnectionCue™ Cards and RelationshipCue™ Cards.
St r e t ch the Way You Think and Speak
Become aware of your feelings and needs in every situation: become fully connected with yourself
This is exactly what we have learned not to do. More than anything we want our children not to feel pain in their lives and so, without realizing it, we teach them not to be too connected to themselves. In our western cultures we often squeeze out the feeling and need from our conversations. Whether we are thinking or speaking to someone, we often leave out feelings and needs which are the secret to awareness and knowing clearly what we are saying or thinking.
Add back in your own feeling and need – it’s so worthwhile – and discover who you really are and what you really want in your life!
Dr Marshall Rosenberg, who died in 2015 and who created NVC…
…said “When you know, address and meet your human needs, you will feel fine. When you don’t…”
This is huge! He was right. Unbelievably simple, NVC is very powerful. In fact it is the most powerful tool I have found to open your awareness. And it’s the only way that I have found that works every time.
During times of stress…
…it’s hard to unravel and understand what would make you feel better – or clearer – sometimes. You feel totally overwhelmed and confused.
Yet by looking at your feeling at that moment – however fleeting – what you feel will lead you to see what you need. Or needed. Every time.
From there it’s simple logic to brainstorm strategies to address that need… And you can change your actions to align with what you believe and want.
All this from listening to your instinctive feeling. Time and time again.
A strong, grounded, peaceful you that can speak your truth in a kind way that you feel completely comfortable with.
It’s not easy to remember 70+ different needs at the very moment when your mind goes blank and you feel overwhelmed. In fact, when the part of your brain that ‘feels’ – your amygdala – takes over, your thinking mind (cortex) is literally frozen immobile. (That is one of the exciting facts that the new neurobiology has ‘proved’ in the last few months.)
NVC theory makes perfect sense and yet it was so hard to actually ‘do’. Until ConnectionCue cards. With these little cards, everything falls into place and works.
I had never considered that I didn’t really know myself as well as I thought I did. I thought “of course I know myself”! And I had never thought in terms of separating thought from feelings from needs. What did that really mean and how could it really make any difference? It does…
NVC was like a magic key for me, opening the doors to myself and to every other sort of counselling and personal development too.
In practice NVC is hard to do – even though it is logical and so obviously ‘the right thing’. I wanted to find a way to make it easier – and this is it!
ConnectionCue™ Cards make it easy! Glossy, bright little cards name your every need! Right in front of your eyes. You can see all of your needs at a glance – even when your mind is frozen immobile. Somehow, the needs that are most important to you in a specific moment, ‘jump out’ at you and guide you to uncover your own answers, sometimes buried deep inside you.
Over ten years later and despite the fact that I created these cards, I still use them. I still need to actually see all the words to connect with the need (perhaps hiding) in my mind. When I spread the cards out in front of me, magic happens and my confusion disappears.
A straightforward guide booklet that I will email to you when you let me know you have received the cards will give you suggestions and a guide on how to use the cards.
Whatever your problem, ConnectionCue™ Cards make your path clearer for you. You can express your needs with more clarity to others – in a kinder and more gentle way that lines up with how you feel ‘inside’. It’s human nature to want to ‘give’ to those we care about and so, when we ask, we tend to receive the support we need. Wow!
It’s a wonderful thing to feel in control of your own life again. Independent and interdependent at the same time.
How Do You Know Which Need – Which ConnectionCue™ Card – To Choose?
You are the expert on you. You will be drawn to the card that best fits your situation. There may be several cards that fit one situation… This is very normal and they will all lead you to the place you need to be.
Explore your inner world, guided by your needs. Allow ConnectionCue™ to walk that path with you. Brainstorm strategies to address your needs and breathe a sigh of relief as you grow in emotional independence.
Affordable email support is always available to answer any question you might have: email me! I am currently working on a sales page so that you can easily buy these cards but, for now, if you email me I will send you an invoice online and have them sent out to you straight away.
I wish you a wonderful day and thank you for reading this page!