Have to choose something to read/listen to while you’re shipwrecked on a desert island for the next 5 years? I would take ‘Non Violent Communication’ by Marshall Rosenberg. Learn to be compassionate to yourself – that’s a novel idea!

NVC aka A Language of Life is the language we are all born speaking, whether we’re from Tibet or Tanzania. Schools, churches, governments and parent all conspire to teach us a language of confrontation, separation and fear. Albeit in Tibetan or Tanzanian!

As I read/listened to Marshall talking about NVC, tears flowed down my face with sadness, regret and a recognition of what I knew to be true in the deepest part of me. I was going to try and talk about the actual components of NVC here but it just doesn’t seem possible to do them justice?

This is without doubt the kindest, most compassionate language anywhere – and it brings success and peace whether you’re alone (self-empathy is one of the most important parts of NVC I think), a couple, a family, a school, a corporation or a country. Some of Marshall’s latest – and successful – work has been in countries torn apart by civil war and hatred, such as Rwanda and the Middle East.

Invite NVC into your life – based on separating thoughts, feelings and needs, enriched by self knowledge and served up with kindness and respect. Life is too precious for anything less.